A vile comment..led to this Blog..
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I was simply speechless after reading a comment on a Blogger's page.( My friend the freakin dude's page )...
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Generally people write Blogs to release their vent out feelings or emotions, it is more of , mini journal, but yesterday I experienced pure hell after reading a comment on my friend ADITYA PANDA’s Page
A Blog taking shape from a comment, or you can say “A UNDEFINED STORM IN THE TEACUP.”
It has been long since I wanted to write something which I had experienced on Sulekha …I would first want all the readers to read a comment which I made yesterday around 3:39 am in the morning on a blogger’s work on Sulekha.
kebabmainhaddi comments: on 30 Sep 07 02:14:00 AM
So who are you trying to fool ? It is time for you to get a reality check ( ditto for the cricket team). Do you think you'' ll get into the IAS by wasting 24x7 hours out here putting down meaningless stuff and cluttering up the whole space? I read your piece on the Hindu Terrorist thing. You are just a juevinile trying to start a fire with damp wood and waiting in the sidelines for something to light up so that you can clap in glee. Grow up and start concentrating on your career goals or you will repent later and end up in your papaji's kirana shop or whatever.
sincerely,
k m h….
these were
ELECTRIFIED AND EXPLODING INDIA!!!
Today by chance I came across your blog titled
SULEKHA SELECTORS ANOUNCE PLAYING XI
Now read my comment carefully dude…Sulekha is a site for Bloggers…U pick the top Bloggers praise them and like some sick nerd you come into spotlight… One dumb blog and with it follows 21 comments. Your Blog did not have any originality. It was disgusting and hyper-x rated open flattery to few bloggers. Aditya Panda’s one impression or an attitude attracted readers all in one go. You use people he used words… his emotions…Honestly you are a big filthy bone in the meat…which I guess cannot survive on Sulekha for long.
You drag a person to take care of handling a kirana shop…U must be butchering meat throughout your life….This curse is surely gonna befall on you. So haddi… either hide yourself inside the pot or simply use the words with your brains, I mean with the ethical cap on your head. U r really a bone in the meat ur ur ur papaji runs a kabab centre, somewhere in India
Regards
From a simple Blogger on Sulekha
Sohini Saha
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Skeletons Out of the Closet
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When I joined Sulekha , I was hit upon by so many, scores of blogs with immense literary ambience attached to it. I used to feel it is a good thing like gathering information and knowledge from the bloggers. I happen to read, the blogs of the top 25 or the featured blogs or whatever caught the interest of my skeptical
eyes. The most unusual thing which I received after posting one Blog on “Infatuation” was few comments and along with a note…written by Greater Noida stating about his emotional trauma, that he needed some counseling. I was dumb founded. I thought am I reading the note correctly. It was quite a big note. I was like some fairy who has this wand to soothe the aching hearts of all these disturbed men on Sulekha. I showed the note to my mom and we had a good laugh on it. I thought of deleting it but my mom insisted reply him in a diplomatic way. It was done, he felt like some ray of hope and again another note and then another. I was disgusted. He was curious about the real “me”. Later on, the worst happened someone by the name of PinkRose started commenting me, on my Blogs and she actually a “HE” will get to that finally gave me a feeling that she is a teacher with kids settled in
The hard fact is that, at one point of time he also called me a snob and we were kind of having verbal duals…But none of us picked or threw stones at our family members.
….My thought is all the people who were creating nuisance earlier on Sulekha never ever took up my family strings and spoke or commented anything bad. Then from no where a Blogger named
kebabmainhaddi
with no particulars who for sure is some serious psychic creep comments making sarcastic, rather insulting remarks on Adi’s blog. It is really shameful where he comments with insult
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Earlier, Sulekha provided points and gifts on writing blogs on Mother’s day and stuff. If we cannot respect elders, whoever they are and in whatever form or in whatever relation they share or are,related to people on this Sulekha Clan. We have no right to insult anyone picking or stating aboriginal remarks like ‘papaji running some kirana shop’. Honestly if someone mentioned bad or any crappy comment to Shamoli Di, I might have killed him or her in my mind. This is one kind of social malfunction already performed by Kebabmeinhaddi. So starting from Hebrew princess, pakhi-the-lil-birdie, and Ekta and everyone on Sulekha lets just either put this sadist at bay, or make him understand that commenting is not like some men making open morbid desires. Do it in a tactful way and not dragging family inside. I am not talking about sense or sensibility….The word is Morality, is it losing with time???
Earlier, Sulekha provided points and gifts on writing blogs on Mother’s day and stuff. If we cannot respect elders, whoever they are and in whatever form or in whatever relation they share or are,related to people on this Sulekha Clan. We have no right to insult anyone picking or stating aboriginal remarks like ‘papaji running some kirana shop’. Honestly if someone mentioned bad or any crappy comment to Shamoli Di, I might have killed him or her in my mind. This is one kind of social malfunction already performed by Kebabmeinhaddi. So starting from Hebrew princess, pakhi-the-lil-birdie, and Ekta and everyone on Sulekha lets just either put this sadist at bay, or make him understand that commenting is not like some men making open morbid desires. Do it in a tactful way and not dragging family inside. I am not talking about sense or sensibility….The word is Morality, is it losing with time???
Honestly I don’t hold any grudges for anyone but I am extremely annoyed about this hard fact where you insult people’ dragging their family out here.
It is my request to all the Senior Citizens on Sulekha ,it is not only about a Aditya Panda’s Blog, in general where we are heading for, where are our moral values and culture leading us to?
Folks if you respect your parents, which I am sure everyone does out here. Scribble your thoughts and voice your opinion on this Blog.
To state that we have problems is not particularly helpful. More to the point is the fact that most of our energy day after day is used in decision-making. I think the bottom line is
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“ALL MEN PLUME THEMSELVES ON THE IMPROVEMENT OF THE SOCIETY, AND NO MAN IMPROVES.”
Regards
sohini..
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first of all thanks a lot for visiting this Blog once more and leaving your precious comment... You mentioned lot of quality information buddy...I would definitely take hold of that book if time and energy permits, but what is laid down in Books, or growing and gaining knowledge from books and understanding the world, or knowing things at large thats not me. I have learnt a lot on Sulekha from all the beautiful people's awesome Blogs..oh yes, few good things from your and the other comments.
I would write something restoration of the freedom to change is the goal of treatment. this freedom grows from knowing the truth about what is in the sense of how we perceive and analyse things. It also recquires the truth, or the evidence of how he would react to situations....obviously if there is a burglary taking place at your home you won't post a Blog on sulekha stating that " people please call the police"...similarly about the teachings....of Kabir and other saints...as you truly say "Nindak Niyare Rakhiye "...but what when you say about Jo-Hari... I think...of one kabir's doha where he scribbles that "Hari..bin kauno gati meri"..where this or better I'll call him the Blue Dude..Krishna says in the Bhagavad-Gita ..."Mattah parataram nanyat kincid asti dhananjaya,
Mayi sarvam idam protam sutre mani gana iva "
O conqueror of wealth there is no truth superior to me, everything rests upon me, which I would say with in us..with our sentiments our values and our morals as pearls are strung on the thread.
talking about Sulekha and "haddi" guy or I must say the "pakhandi" guy....the menace which he made was direct attack of verbal abuse.Whatever being a part of sulekha and also being an avid reader there is no-entry for vile comments out here. It should be ended..and as they say charity begins at home, lemme say I want to do some virtual cleaning on sulekha.
Guess what i'm very organized in my personal life...my blog acted as a pesticide against that perfect creepy pest called "K M H " Yes..there is again ifs and buts after all it is to do with human nature,once more he will do it may be somewhere else, and as he says he is some tomato farmer so may be for some days he will hibernate but in that corse of time he will create menace in his home front, or he will be reproducing some unscrupulous thoughts or making some strategy planning how to hit me on Sulekha...Now he will shift gears...from Adi..next target "OLalala..A O...Get...SOHINI..."
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I chanced upon this blog as it was gathering lots of comemnts . After going through thr blog and subsequently all the comments , I have follwoing thing for you.
As per Jo and Hari there are 4 quadrants of behaviour for every person , when you are talking to someone face to face and if you know him / her his self projection is controlled and known to you and him/her.
There is another side of personality which is called hidden self , hidden from others and hidden from oneself as well. Virtual World is different from real world due to anonymity offered by net and impersonal way of interaction, people feel free to express themselves in an uncontrolled manner and the hidden self comes out.
So the comments you see on the blogs are unabated and brutally critical at times. These kind of comments may hurt you emotionally for some time but before calling to moderate comments you need to ask yourself is it necessarily a bad thing at all ?
Comments on blogs provide an opportunity so that you can see what other are really thinking with out any kind of mask put on or sugar coating applied.
It's up to you to take or leave the feedback. If you feel that comment is not justified and shows small mindedness of the reader you must ignore it and move on.
In real life as well you may face such situations and a mature response should be no different.
If you find yourself unable to handle such situations, you can use blog comments as a tool to earn respond to such situation sin a mature way.
You must have heard famous doha from Kabir "Nindak Niyare Rakhiye , Angan Kuti Chabaya"
If you have noticed I posted a long comment on your other blog about "Youth Culture " some time back , it was manifestation of same kind of emotional disturbance in another situation which shocked you.
Best Regards
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Hey..shamolidi...
this one is for you....
Nights, clouded, bright
Senses alert during the night
Dulled by the brightness of sunlight
The duality of it all here.
We should cherish how to be
And embrace with our hearts
That which is truly dear.
When, really, they should rearrange
Their values, ears, and eyes
to become one who is wise.
This, is the illusion of it all!
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I do not understand any Panda Clan..." Now what is that by the way..I know about orkut....and yeah i've met few pandas at jagannath mandir at PURI, and had lunch at one person's house as I had been a frequent visitor.
I know Adi is brother-like to you....for me ...he is good human being...
I read that comment.... well i am very much aware about the virtual world but this is a literary portal it is no friend finder /or some dating site where in you always keep your identity and sometimes your genders secret. I do understand the different kind of behaviors men/and women have or like lighting sparks their attitude sometimes, but when or all this while when you wrote the blogs were you some different personality or got hold of someone's attitude and wrote your Blogs and shared with the masses.
I mean if you were a man, you changed your attitude to a woman is it??? and wrote all the comments and blogs, or wrote like some Gyan guru...Listen..its not being emotional its like showing some quality responsibility towards my fellow members .... and what kind of bond I share with some people on sulekha is more than what or how you explain with your virtual sensibility....
Guess what I am an emotinal..person....Like..whatever I do I with "DiL sE"...but my Dimag..rules my "DIl"...Its really true that cars on the streets are dangerous, Its really true when I share my thoughts with my best buddy I feel good.If parental directives are grounded at proper time with the gradual process of growth of an individual, he or she won't behave with such degrading attitude...hence whether that "haddi" is actually a "haddi" or as Supriya states..some guy...walking down the street of sulekha with "New mask" to take some verbal regenge on adi...
anyways..
thanks..
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My name sounds familiar cause you have commented few times on my poetry and I also have, Mojo. I liked the way you have put things across...
One that should make us bloggers, as a community, feel ashamed at our lack of basic decency. But just like I asked Mr.Datta, I ask you too, "What is it that you propose we do to curb this menace?"
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I chanced upon this blog seeing the title and then noticed writer is Sohini Saha,
I remember leaving a long comment on one of your other blog , If you allow me to deconstruct you based
on these two blogs though it is a very small sample you seem to be young and very emotional person
who gets easily affected by whatever you see on media ( blogs , comments , web sited etc).
Web content does not present real picture of the person on other side of the net and hence it is
called virtual world. Due to anonymity offered by web and less of personal interaction humon behavior on net is
quite different from what you may see face to face.
If you have read about Jo-Hari's windows every person has four quadrants of behavior and with anonymity offered by net
hidden self becomes more evident.
Looking at the bright side of it this kind of unabashed criticism provides us an opportunity to look at our
views from a different perspective, As Kabir said " Nindak Niyare Rakhiye " It is not necessarily bad if some one
criticizes you brutally. Any kind of effort to impose a code of conduct or moderation of comments actually takes away this chance from you.
Regards
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Your name sounds familiar, but please do forgive me if I am not able to place it immediately. I was drawn in by the title of your blog, cause just a few days back, Mr. Ratan Datta seemed to be airing a grievance of the same sort. Today, when I saw your's, I started getting this feeling that suddenly, 'uncouth behaviour' seems to be in the lime light on Sulekha.
I read your blog very patiently but cannot say that I have the complete picture as yet. I am not aware of the perpetrator or your friend, Mr.Panda. It is a very unfortunate incident, I agree. One that should make us bloggers, as a community, feel ashamed at our lack of basic decency. But just like I asked Mr.Datta, I ask you too, "What is it that you propose we do to curb this menace?"
What makes us all co-exist in a civilised way, either in the real world or the virtual world, is our commitment to a certain code of conduct. If someone decides to call you names from their balcony, or leave anonymous obscene letters in your mail box, what will you do? You can avoid them, close your door, junk the letters but that's all, isn't it? I mean, legally. You cannot do anything 'to' that person. You cannot curtail their freedom to be the ass that they are, isn't it? I am sorry if I do not sound as aggravated as you by the insult heaped upon a good citizen of Sulekha. I am. But I also am confused, and not sure of what we can do to stop it in the future.
I would like to see an 'effective' solution being offered as much as you. Lamenting over how sad it is, and how angry we all are, is not good enough. I personally don't think, it is even a part of the solution.
Sorry if I sound less than positive and supportive here. That is not true. I am with you on this. But I am not sure we have a solution yet. That's all.
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