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Top Tips To Improve Your Relationship
It's an all too-often problem in today's modern societies with millions of relationships breaking down before 5 years have passed. Why is this happening and what can you do to increase your chances of enjoying a happy, lasting loving relationship?
Routines can kill relationships in double quick time, they are that bad. OK, we all need a certain amount of routine in our lives but when there is so much routine life becomes totally predictable, the boredom critter creeps in and eats away at your relationship. Imagine being in a relationship where you do the same things each and every week, nothing new is tried, no excitement, no adventure, no buzz! You know what happens to a garden if it isn't watered? It withers and dies. That's what's happening here. Make the effort to keep the spark alive by doing and enjoying new experiences and keep the boredom critter away!
Respect for each is absolutely fundamental. This means accepting and loving your partner for the wonderful, unique human being they are. However, many people actually believe they "own" their partner, and expect them to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more like slavery than love! Your partner isn't your private property, they certainly aren't your slave and it isn't conducive to a happy relationship to restrict their freedoms by treating them this way. Your partner may want to grow in ways you may not like or even feel comfortable with but preventing their growth not only stifles them but you as well. Because your partner will treat you in the same way. Instead of restricting each other's freedoms, it is far better encourage your partner to grow and become the person they want to be. Indeed, this is the only way true love can flourish.
Routines can kill relationships in double quick time, they are that bad. OK, we all need a certain amount of routine in our lives but when there is so much routine life becomes totally predictable, the boredom critter creeps in and eats away at your relationship. Imagine being in a relationship where you do the same things each and every week, nothing new is tried, no excitement, no adventure, no buzz! You know what happens to a garden if it isn't watered? It withers and dies. That's what's happening here. Make the effort to keep the spark alive by doing and enjoying new experiences and keep the boredom critter away!
Respect for each is absolutely fundamental. This means accepting and loving your partner for the wonderful, unique human being they are. However, many people actually believe they "own" their partner, and expect them to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more like slavery than love! Your partner isn't your private property, they certainly aren't your slave and it isn't conducive to a happy relationship to restrict their freedoms by treating them this way. Your partner may want to grow in ways you may not like or even feel comfortable with but preventing their growth not only stifles them but you as well. Because your partner will treat you in the same way. Instead of restricting each other's freedoms, it is far better encourage your partner to grow and become the person they want to be. Indeed, this is the only way true love can flourish.
Without doubt, the single worst way to spoil your relationship is to be argumentative because you need to be right. This is DEADLY. Argumentative people will argue to the nth degree until they "win" about everything and anything. They will not listen and consider their partner's viewpoints and will rarely if ever compromise. Any criticism, even if fair and justified will be met with defensive and sometimes angry responses as the need to be right overrides the need to compromise and improve the relationship. Try not to get into silly, futile arguments and remember that winning arguments isn't the objective, but what is best for your relationship - if you want it to last.
One of the most destructive forces you can introduce to your relationship is guilt. Guilt is used by to exert control over someone to gain more value. It works by reminding your partner of their shortcomings - an affair, a mistake, comparing them to "better" people in other relationships, keeping score of all their failings no matter how slight - to achieve a desired outcome. E.g. "Bev is such a great wife to Mike, she always has a nice meal ready for him when he comes home. You obviously don't love me because you never cook for me." It is such a nasty game, it really is. Never play the guilt game with partners, and never accept such poor behavior. Guilt has no place in a loving relationship - ever.
Clinginess is such a harmful trait. Clingy people spoil their relationships by suffocating their partners by always being with them. Having a clingy partner is like owning a love-struck puppy that follows its owner everywhere. And when their owner isn't around, separation anxiety sets in. It is bad for man to be with a woman like this but boy-oh-boy it is a million times worse when a man behaves like this with a woman. And if you've ever been socialising and your clingy partner dogs you all night, you'll know how stifling this is. Have the confidence to be your own person and allow your partner space to breathe. Your relationship will be all the better for it.
That's 5 great ways for you to improve your relationship and enjoy more happiness. The more of them you put to use, the happier your relationship will be and the longer it will last....
(ref. from the net)One of the most destructive forces you can introduce to your relationship is guilt. Guilt is used by to exert control over someone to gain more value. It works by reminding your partner of their shortcomings - an affair, a mistake, comparing them to "better" people in other relationships, keeping score of all their failings no matter how slight - to achieve a desired outcome. E.g. "Bev is such a great wife to Mike, she always has a nice meal ready for him when he comes home. You obviously don't love me because you never cook for me." It is such a nasty game, it really is. Never play the guilt game with partners, and never accept such poor behavior. Guilt has no place in a loving relationship - ever.
Clinginess is such a harmful trait. Clingy people spoil their relationships by suffocating their partners by always being with them. Having a clingy partner is like owning a love-struck puppy that follows its owner everywhere. And when their owner isn't around, separation anxiety sets in. It is bad for man to be with a woman like this but boy-oh-boy it is a million times worse when a man behaves like this with a woman. And if you've ever been socialising and your clingy partner dogs you all night, you'll know how stifling this is. Have the confidence to be your own person and allow your partner space to breathe. Your relationship will be all the better for it.
That's 5 great ways for you to improve your relationship and enjoy more happiness. The more of them you put to use, the happier your relationship will be and the longer it will last....
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